You had been a challenge for her. You had a high appeal and she had been irresistibly fascinated by you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"

I'm going to make a wild guess here, but is it that as time went on, you grew to become less and less of a challenge for her? And is it that currently, you are zero challenge for her? Not to mention that she believes if she wanted to, at any moment she could get you back again and twisted around her little finger by simply saying the word?

I am going to be crude here, nevertheless as you know, to develop into a challenge once again you need to prove to your ex-girlfriend that her sexuality does not have any control over you any longer. Consider what it's like when you are stalking her with not returned phone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. And then consider what it's like when you keep doing it (as many guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You will be implying to the woman that you're a low-value guy with no other alternatives.

Your lady will not respect you again until you reject her dominance over you. Fortunately you're doing that now by not personally corresponding with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.

Be sure you stay 100% rigid with your communication cut-off. You should not be "pals" with her, simply because that rewards her with the continuing consent of power over you while supplying her a convenient justification to stay broken up. (Your lover reasons that she's letting you down easy doing this, assuaging any guilt she may feel.)

However, always keep her locked in with your things. More than likely lots of your belongings are at her residence, and vice versa. She may even owe you money as well. She may ask a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you want everything back.

The very best response to this is "No, not yet. The reason is because her possessing your stuff (and you possessing hers) is still locking you two in and guaranteeing future communication. You do NOT want to provide her the psychological closure that would result from settling your accounts.

For the up coming 3 weeks, you need to fully acknowledge -- and embrace -- the idea that you're an independent person now. Take what happened with your ex-lover and learn from it. You've got a great opportunity to revolutionize your life which will eventually allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.